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South Africa is a country with many challenges.
We have high rates of violent crime, poverty and a stronghold of an old apartheid regime that does not seem to want to disappear even though we have been living in a democratic country for 24 years.
8 months, 2 weeks ago
When I was a toddler we lived in a yellow painted house in Steenberg, Cape Town. I do not remember the street name anymore, but it was close to Military Road. We had a neighbour who was about my age and he would come over now and again to play. On one of these occasions he uttered the inevitable toddler words: 'show me yours and I'll show you mine'. After a quick calculation of risk by looking around to see where my mother was, I flashed him my vagina. We both laughed and a few seconds later, he flashed me his toddler penis. After that day, we never did it again and for years I had actually forgotten about this incident.
What I did not forget though was what my vagina looked like. What I had looked down upon in the few seconds of observation was thrilling. The top of my vagina, that I would later come to know as my vulva, looked soft, like a piece of dough. There was a long slit and I didn't know what was inside of it. Come to think of it, I didn't know much about my vagina until I reached University, purchased my first vibrator and started having adult sex. You know, the type of sex that makes you google things because you actually start wanting to know what you are doing. In order for you to skip that whole experimental process I have taken the time to list 10 THINGS YOU DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT YOUR VAGINA